Fake It Til You Make It
“Fake it til you make it.” I have no idea who said those words to me first. I remember hearing them when I was a kid and thinking they were so stupid. Some adult must have made them up to make me feel better about some sport I was trying to play. I always sucked at sports. I had no skill and was the sister of the captain of the football team. That should tell you enough.
When I became an adult and wanted to become part of the man’s world of construction those words were REALLY important to me. I had to fake it because I had a lot to learn and I didn’t want to look like an idiot. I knew I had to at least “look” like I knew what I was doing. A lot of times it came back to haunt me because it took me hours, and hours, and hours (or so it seemed) to do a job that took them an hour to do. I took the words way too seriously. I should have asked for help instead of “faking” it. Somewhere along the line I realized that even though I am in a man’s world, I don’t have to be like the man. I can be ME and do it MY way. And, I now know that it’s okay to ask for help without looking stupid or like an idiot. Being REAL is a good thing.
I think that is why I LOVE being the ToolBox TomGirl. I am learning something new every day AND I am teaching something new every day. I don’t have to “fake it” to “make it” any more. If I screw up – I say so. I can laugh about it, I correct the mistake, and I move on. Oh – the power of being a woman. If I was a man – well, you know – I might not admit I made the mistake. They have been taught that they can’t make mistakes. Whew – glad I don’t have that pressure on me.
So my advice to you, is this; DIY is NOT about “faking it til you make it.” It’s about practice, practice, practice. It doesn’t cost much to do a job – Even if you have to do it a couple of times. With the right tools, and sometimes the written instructions, or a phone call to someone who has some experience (man or woman), you can accomplish your DIY project. YES – you may have to ask someone for help the first time. SO WHAT????? Does it matter that you asked for help? Really, does it matter? No – it does not. In the end – YOU still accomplished the task.
Again – DO NOT FAKE IT……Practice til you make it. Do it til you make it. Laugh til you make it. SMILE – you MADE it!!!
To women holding hammers,
Jo Ellen Soesbee, The ToolBox TomGirl